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Hello 2019

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ONLY TAKE THE GOOD SIDE OF PERFECTIONISM 

I haven’t written here for a while... I really enjoy making my very own articles and choosing everything from the pictures to the layout, but I’ve always been kind of a perfectionist, and so it wasn’t easy for me to learn how to write here while not having enough time to make it as perfect as I wished.

But in 2019, I don’t want to be an “all or nothing” kind of person anymore. I’ll always be a perfectionist in the sense that I like things to be well done, but I believe it is better to not feel discouraged by not doing things exactly like I wished and then do nothing instead… Something is always better than nothing in that case. So here I go again, writing on my little personal online space :)!

I want to share what my main focuses this year are, it’s not really a “New Year’s resolutions” article, because we’re already way past that haha, and also because I prefer to see it as engagements to myself instead of resolutions that everyone abandons after a few weeks. It’s ok to not do everything perfectly, as long as you go forward and that your personal goals get closer and closer.

LOWER MY STRESS LEVELS

If you know me, or have been following me online for a bit, you probably know that I’m pretty hypochondriac. I used to take it as a joke, because I felt my fears but knew my brain could handle to talk some sense into them... Until a few months ago where I felt that my anxiety due to hypochondria took way too much space in my life than I wanted to, almost giving me full panic attacks.

This is not something I want to take with me in 2019. I want to cherish my body and mind, cuddle them and take care of them, feeding them with good positive foods and thoughts. I started taking yoga classes again last year and realized how helpful it is to focus on something relaxing for an entire hour, and how this peaceful feeling followed me after. That’s one of my keys to fight anxiety, but I have others that I’ll develop with you in a future article.

If you have irrational worries too, know that it’s a way your anxiety found to express itself. Don’t ignore it, but don’t let yourself fall too far into it. Always remember to breath and most importantly, that you’re not alone.

 
 
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BECOME A DOER

I’ve always been a dreamer. And I’ll always will be because that’s my personality. Now that said, I noticed how things can evolve quickly when I actually push myself to work my lil’ ass off... And I owe it to myself to get out of my contemplating mode (which is mostly driven by fears of failing) and get to where I deserve to be. I have a new project I’m working on now, that I will also write you about very soon, and I feel like it’s the perfect timing in my life, when I finally know that fears shouldn’t be driving my life path.

Also, I want to remind myself to take every opportunity I can and make it into something positive, no matter what happens. EVERY TIME I did something I wanted to do that scared me, it ALWAYS resulted in something positive. So here’s some life lesson. Do the scary things.

REMAIN POSITIVE AND THANKFUL

No matter what happens, I want to remember how lucky I am. I have the best people surrounding me, ones that make my heart ache from love and happiness, ones that I can trust and talk to about my worries, hopes, serious and stupid matters... I live in a country I never dreamed of being able to live in for a long time, I get to travel and meet adorable, interesting people and call it a job. And so, SO MANY other things in my life that I am thankful for. I want to remember all that when I have moments of doubt because life is really an amazing experience.

Cheers, and talk soon ;)!

 
 
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Punta Cana

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        Every winter I say "next year, I go to a warm country and enjoy the beach when everyone else is freezing" lol. Yet last winter I spent a few days at a spa in France, which was nice but no dreamy beaches around, and the winter before I spent the New Year with friends in Amsterdam and again it was a lot of fun but I was freezing my ass! So this year was the year, I wanted to start 2018 in paradise.

I make a difference between "travel" and "vacation". I love traveling and discover cultures and places, but sometimes you need a vacation when you just enjoy and relax, so we decided on Punta Cana because it's a really short flight from NYC and the prices aren't as high as anywhere else. I have to admit that everything was great except the food that wasn't as fresh and good quality as we like... We've also had a cold that we brought from NYC, and we fed the cliché of those who only become sick during their holiday haha! But we came for the beautiful weather and the beach and that was enough to start the year in a positive way.

 

 
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        One of the greatest pleasures from spending some time in the Caribbeans was to wear my favorite bikini by Solid and Striped. I love all their shapes and colors but this pastel striped one is the cutest swimsuit I've had in a while! I love the pictures from the empty beach and how happy I look lol!

One of my favorite thing to do during the day was read 1Q84 by Murakami in the Bali beds while the sun was high, so I could feel the heat without burning, hearing the relaxing water noise from both the beach waves and the pool.

 

 
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        I also go to enjoy a few massages and treatments at the spa. I got a dead sea mud treatment before leaving to make my skin tone more even by nourishing it and exfoliating the dead cells. And look at the beauty of the facilities! I thing the pleasure of the eyes is important for relaxation, as well as the sounds surrounding you.

 

 
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        I brought many shorts, tops and dresses but I think I wore this green wrap dress from Urban Outfitters because it's so comfortable when it's hot and it's so convenient to wear over your bathing suit. It's quite open on the front though so I'm not sure I'd wear it without a cute bra/shirt underneath.

 

 
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        Everyone who knows me or just follows me on Instagram know I couldn't not own a red swimsuit! This one is from Fella Swim, I saw it on the gram and loved the shape of the top and couldn't resist buying it in one of my favorite colors. I also like to walk around with a sarong for when there's more wind and I feel colder or just when there more people and it makes me feel more comfortable. The beach bag is from Free People, one of my favorite brand! It's simple, just what you need for the beach.

 

 
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The Gucci glasses, the Fella Swim bathing suit and the sarong aren't available anymore so I give you very close options :)

 
 
 
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2018 Resolutions

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        The new year period is a great time to look back at what I've actually done the past year and what I want to focus on the next one. I already explained how sensitive I am to "fresh starts" and I am really excited for 2018 as 2017 has been my best year so far (in my personal and professional life) and I know that if I focus on the right things, I will accomplish better things and live even more great experiences.

 

 

 

  • K E E P   M Y   M O T I V A T I O N   H I G H

        In 2017 I have been able to do a few things that scared me and start personal and work projects more easily than what I used to. But I have to admit that I haven't been really regular with my work, and I am aware that if I did so I would have done even more projects. This year I want to focus on keeping my motivation high and be as regular as I can with my plans EVERY DAY! That counts for work, personal projects and activities, fitness and health, ... I will create habits from the new year kick start!

  • T A L K   M O R E   O N   C A M E R A

        It may sound superficial that one of my key goal for 2018 includes social media, but it's a little more than that. I used to hate my voice (like many people it was nearly unbearable for me to listen to a record of my voice or watch a talking video of me), and in 2017 I finally had the guts to work on an interview on video thanks to some friends who asked me if I wanted to do it. I realized that my voice isn't that bad (I even had compliments about it haha) and more importantly, I actually loved talking on camera! Our voice is a great tool in a world where we show more and more videos over pictures and where people read less than before (sadly). It was also another step to help me build more confidence -something I have achieved more and more the past few years after realizing that you're not born confident and that you can earn it by proving to yourself that you can do things that scare you/make you feel uncomfortable. So you'll probably hear me talk in my insta stories (saying more or less interesting things but certainly having fun)!

 

 

  • S H O O T   V I D E O S

        This one is a bit connected with my last goal; I want to see what I can do if I start filming a few things that inspire me/amuse me/... and put it all together. Not sure yet if I will share it but it's a nice field to explore as I love doing video shoots in fashion. It allows you to express more than in a still image with the subtlety of movements.

  • T R A V E L   M O R E

        There are a few places that I want to go to but am a little scared to visit. You know what they say about the comfort zone and the magic happening... Since I am lucky enough to have the ability to travel for work, I want to explore the opportunity while I can and go to places that could make me feel uncomfortable but will teach me about other cultures, and I surely don't want to die without visiting them.

  • K E E P   C A L M

        After reading The Highly Sensitive Person (a book by Elaine Aron that I highly recommend if you feel often overwhelmed), I could finally put some words on that feeling of not being "normal" that was always sticking to me. I understood that I was more aroused by many situations because I am highly sensitive and there is nothing wrong with it: like everything, there is a positive and a negative side to it, and it certainly doesn't make me "weaker", on the contrary, because I am more likely to notice subtle things. That said, it's not an excuse to the fact that I sometimes "overreact" and feel angry/hurt during conversations about causes that are important to me. I want to become better at being gentle with people I can share with (I am not talking about the aggressive ones here) so I can have constructive conversations instead of frustrating arguments.

 

        What are your 2018 goals?

 
 

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New Year's Resolutions

Photography by Anne Menke for The Untitled Magazine

Photography by Anne Menke for The Untitled Magazine

You can make new goals and stick to them the whole year, but like some people the first day of the year feels special to me. It's like a fresh start when you can apply everything you learned from the past year and make the right choices for the next one. I wanted to share my personal 2017's resolutions here because it's a way to make sure I'll stick to it.

My goals for 2017 :

  • Focus more. Since I'm a child I've been a daydreamer, often lost in my thoughts. My troubles to focus on one precise thing makes it sometimes hard for me to reach my goals as fast as I'd like. But the few times I could really focus on a specific task I could do it the way I wanted, well and a lot quicker. As I have many exciting plans for 2017, I want to put everything in my power to be better at focusing on them.
  • Be more organized. This is a logical following: in order to focus more, I want to spend less time procrastinating and not knowing what comes next in my schedule. I also simply enjoy being methodical but I am being a bit too lazy about it. I want to do more and think less (it's all about balance), and being organized is a step toward it.
  • Read more. I used to read a lot as a teenager, but since I started traveling I slowly stopped. Since then I left many interesting books unfinished. Books are a great way to get lost in a story or learn from people who had the same struggles as you have and grow from it.
  • Learn German. I love languages and I admire people who can speak many of them. I've been trying on and off with German for the past few years, focusing on it for a few month and see results, and then leave it and forget. Right now, my way to be regular is to use the app Duolingo as you only need your phone to "study", but I want to step forward and be more serious and watch movies in German more often, and I hope to make good progress really soon.

These are my most important resolutions. I have other goals that I'll share with you later, and I also plan to be more present on The French Glow as I had troubles to be regular while traveling for work. Stay tuned !

What are your goals for 2017 ?